this is so beautifully written and so relatable. me and my ex broke up 2 years ago and we kept trying to be friends but knowing we couldn’t be together because our relationship wasn’t working out. i hope u find clarity thru ur writing and remember what u deserve 💕
Oh, this was excellent! I think getting over your ex is proportional to the amount of damage they have left in their wake. Or at least for me, that’s how it works. If things were fine but end goals were a problem, you eventually end things because someone is compromising a huge thing. You end up canvassing on the “what ifs” in such situations. If the ex was a terrible human being and treated you like shit, moving on from them is quite instant.
I loved reading your piece, made me really think about the importance of past relationships in my current life :)
thankyou for taking the time to read 🥺🥺 I definitely agree that past relationships kind of shape you and you tend to avoid what you don’t want in your next, it’s like dating till you finally find the person who you are willing to compromise for even with their flaws and all
this is so beautiful i love this!!! i think we never get over the people we love, cause when we don‘t have anyone in our lives .. then our brain tries to go back to the moment when we did… and i think sometimes this is also something positive, cause when i think back…or when my brain tries to i just ask myself what i miss.. and often it’s something i can give myself, wether is a love letter .. or a flower bouquet, sometimes our brain misses the love … and we have to be our own lover before we can be anyone else’s lover ..
i think i found this at the exact moment when i needed it the most (i.e. i'm also thinking about my past relationship and struggling to deal with those conflicted feelings). though painfully relatable (lol), this was so beautifully expressed i simply have to thank you for being so honest and delving into this topic<3 my short answer right now is: no, you never truly get over someone that you loved since that love and grief will probably stay with you forever, despite being transformed as time passes, but i don't think this is a sign of not being able to move on or being stuck. instead, i think it is a part of human nature and relationships, and i do not blame myself anymore for the fact that i will most likely always have a little piece of my heart that's dedicated to them and the time we spent together. lovergirls unite ! thank you again for this piece:)
🥺🥺thankyou for reading !! yes I agree, we tend to blame ourselves fully if something goes wrong or doesn’t work out. We sometimes need to remember and give ourselves grace / forgive ourselves, that is the only way forward
i also like you write when i think about my ex LOL i agree with you, we tend to romanticize our exes and past relationships, but we need to remember why they ended!! wishing the best for you and here's to new love
Reading this felt like being trusted with something honest and complicated. What hit me is how you don’t try to make it neat — you admit you might still love him, while also knowing you deserve more than what he was able to give. That kind of honesty is powerful.
The part about mothering him without being asked gave me the feels. So many of us fall into that without realizing it, giving and giving out of love until our own needs get buried. The way you framed it isn’t bitter — it’s clear. It’s that moment when self-respect finally catches up with the love we were already offering.
And your choice to write instead of call — that’s strong. It’s not just a coping mechanism, it’s you turning the urge into something that builds instead of drains. Writing becomes the reminder of why you grew past him, but also the way you honor what was real between you.
So when you ask, “Do you ever really get over your ex?” — I don’t think it’s about getting over them. It’s about transforming how they live in your story. And from this letter, it feels like you’re already doing that.
If you read any of my work, my answer would become clear to you. It’s been more than two years and I still think about my ex-girlfriend every day. There’s no moving on, it’s moving forward. Not getting over, but getting through! That would be my answer
this was so honest and relatable. i really felt the part about still loving someone but knowing they can’t give you what you need. the way you turn the urge to call into writing is such a powerful way to process. to your question, i do think you can get over an ex. it just takes time and distance and one day you realize the hold they had on you isn’t there anymore.
this is so beautifully written and so relatable. me and my ex broke up 2 years ago and we kept trying to be friends but knowing we couldn’t be together because our relationship wasn’t working out. i hope u find clarity thru ur writing and remember what u deserve 💕
I know!!! writing is a way of coping ahaha, thankyou !
Oh, this was excellent! I think getting over your ex is proportional to the amount of damage they have left in their wake. Or at least for me, that’s how it works. If things were fine but end goals were a problem, you eventually end things because someone is compromising a huge thing. You end up canvassing on the “what ifs” in such situations. If the ex was a terrible human being and treated you like shit, moving on from them is quite instant.
I loved reading your piece, made me really think about the importance of past relationships in my current life :)
thankyou for taking the time to read 🥺🥺 I definitely agree that past relationships kind of shape you and you tend to avoid what you don’t want in your next, it’s like dating till you finally find the person who you are willing to compromise for even with their flaws and all
This was some very big perspective to me who has only been in situationship, thank you for sharing it here.
thank you!
it’s so difficult not to romanticise someone just because the other people you’ve dated/been with are so much worse. I really enjoyed reading this <3
thankyou!!
this is so beautiful i love this!!! i think we never get over the people we love, cause when we don‘t have anyone in our lives .. then our brain tries to go back to the moment when we did… and i think sometimes this is also something positive, cause when i think back…or when my brain tries to i just ask myself what i miss.. and often it’s something i can give myself, wether is a love letter .. or a flower bouquet, sometimes our brain misses the love … and we have to be our own lover before we can be anyone else’s lover ..
trulyyyy, thankyou for reading my work 🥺
no problem!!! i love ur workkk
i think i found this at the exact moment when i needed it the most (i.e. i'm also thinking about my past relationship and struggling to deal with those conflicted feelings). though painfully relatable (lol), this was so beautifully expressed i simply have to thank you for being so honest and delving into this topic<3 my short answer right now is: no, you never truly get over someone that you loved since that love and grief will probably stay with you forever, despite being transformed as time passes, but i don't think this is a sign of not being able to move on or being stuck. instead, i think it is a part of human nature and relationships, and i do not blame myself anymore for the fact that i will most likely always have a little piece of my heart that's dedicated to them and the time we spent together. lovergirls unite ! thank you again for this piece:)
🥺🥺thankyou for reading !! yes I agree, we tend to blame ourselves fully if something goes wrong or doesn’t work out. We sometimes need to remember and give ourselves grace / forgive ourselves, that is the only way forward
i also like you write when i think about my ex LOL i agree with you, we tend to romanticize our exes and past relationships, but we need to remember why they ended!! wishing the best for you and here's to new love
thankyou for taking your time to read this x
Reading this felt like being trusted with something honest and complicated. What hit me is how you don’t try to make it neat — you admit you might still love him, while also knowing you deserve more than what he was able to give. That kind of honesty is powerful.
The part about mothering him without being asked gave me the feels. So many of us fall into that without realizing it, giving and giving out of love until our own needs get buried. The way you framed it isn’t bitter — it’s clear. It’s that moment when self-respect finally catches up with the love we were already offering.
And your choice to write instead of call — that’s strong. It’s not just a coping mechanism, it’s you turning the urge into something that builds instead of drains. Writing becomes the reminder of why you grew past him, but also the way you honor what was real between you.
So when you ask, “Do you ever really get over your ex?” — I don’t think it’s about getting over them. It’s about transforming how they live in your story. And from this letter, it feels like you’re already doing that.
It was a great read.
And you are so welcome and it’s much deserved.
I can’t wait to read more!
Thank you.
love the way you’ve written this, especially the ending x thankyou for reading 🥺
I think yes you do move on and it gets better
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If you read any of my work, my answer would become clear to you. It’s been more than two years and I still think about my ex-girlfriend every day. There’s no moving on, it’s moving forward. Not getting over, but getting through! That would be my answer
thankyou!! Reading now!!
True!! Will do x
this was so honest and relatable. i really felt the part about still loving someone but knowing they can’t give you what you need. the way you turn the urge to call into writing is such a powerful way to process. to your question, i do think you can get over an ex. it just takes time and distance and one day you realize the hold they had on you isn’t there anymore.
thank you for your kind words x
This was so beautiful to read
(I'm sorry for restacking a little too many quotes😂)